How do I know if this love is real?

Like everything else on earth love can be real and it can be faked. Therefore, people in love are often retrospective. If a person gives their whole in a relationship, they are often afraid of not having their love reciprocated in kind. They often wonder if there is a way of telling that a person’s affection for them is legit.

First off, if you begin to entertain the idea that the love that you are being shown is not genuine, then you must start with a self audit. The error most people make is to look outwards when they face emotional turmoil. Whereas,in fact, how people act towards you is often a reflection of the type of person you are.

An honest self examination will reveal whether there are things about you that make you attract unworthy people into your life. For example, do you find yourself saying things that sound as if you don’t care? Do you make statements like, “nothing in this world is permanent”, “if it doesn’t work out, I just move on,” “no two people are meant for each other,” while silently wishing for a “forever after”?

The words that you speak reveal your mindset and the person you are in relationship with may thus be misreading your true intentions. It may not matter if you are doing for them things that you will only do for someone you want as permanent fixture in our life. If what you say does not match your actions, the reward will be tentativeness and sometimes aloofness towards you.

In this vein, be careful what you post on social media. You will be judged by what you post. Friendships have been made and broken by social media posts. Opinions have been formed and insights gained on how a person thinks through what they put out on social media.

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But what if you have examined yourself and find that you are matching your words with actions but you are still unsure where your partner’s heart is? Then it might be a good idea to have an honest conversation with them. Tell them how you feel and listen to their reaction. You may find that it could be something about you that they are reacting to.

And if all else fails and you still have that nagging feeling of doubt? If you choose to “shake it off” and move on with the relationship, then you are simply kicking the ball further down the road. It won’t make the ball disappear.

A lot of people may find this controversial but testing to see if this person is really into you may be a good idea. However, what you test them with may be tricky. There have been instances where a person sends their friend to seduce their partner to know if they will betray them or not. This is a bad idea.

Even in the Bible Proverbs, it is stated that one of the four things that is beyond comprehension is the way of a man with a young woman. Testing your partner with sex is providing them with an alternative. They just might take and for very good reason.

In all, love is a beautiful thing. Falling in love can affect your life in very positive ways. But remember, not all who profess love are really in love. So, spend each day ensuring that the person you are in love with is the person in love with you.